Just finished reading this amazing book “Year of Yes” by Shonda Rhimes. For those who don’t know, Shonda Rhimes is the writer of epic TV series like Grey's Anatomy, How to get away with murder and many others.I particularly loved this autobiography because it talks about her transformation journey after she became successful in her career. For me that’s important because it establishes 2 very important points: a) Success doesn’t always mean that you are at your pinnacle of happiness and it’s never only defined by just your profession. b) We are all humans and we are struggle with common feelings, emotions and thoughts, irrespective of what we achieve in life.
So here are the key takeaways that struck a chord with me:
First step out of comfort zone is terrifying but the second one is equally liberating.
Acknowledge and own your wins, don’t brush them off. Be openly proud of your accomplishments and the compliments that come along - If it is backed, it ain’t bragging!
It’s important to learn to say no even in personal relationships. Don’t be taken for granted/ feel pressurized to do something out of line for someone just because you’re related.
Not everyone will be happy as you become a better, happier person. Some people that you considered your friends and well wishes can especially surprise you with their toxicity on your transformation journey.
Your body is precious and it’s your job to keep it healthy. Don’t try to justify your poor health and lifestyle choices with any excuse - work, stress, or pressure. It all begins with something as simple as eating right. Discipline is where it all begins.
When you feel the need to apologize or explain who you are, it means that you’re telling yourself the wrong story. Happiness comes from living as you need to, as you want to.
These ones are for the moms: Consciously reduce your guilt trips as a working mom. You’ll lose a few precious moments but remember you’re working to give a better lifestyle to your child.
It’s equally hard to be a mother for a stay at home mom and a working mom. So, never create a hero out of moms sacrificing everything for their children. This is dehumanizing - Extend empathy, if not help and don’t try to be a judge of how anyone chooses to raise their children. You will never know what they’re going through.
You could also listen to her TED Talk on her “Year of Yes” here: https://youtu.be/gmj-azFbpkA